Tanya Jayne

Relationship, Mindset and Life Coach

Helping you channel your full potential

My Approach

My approach to coaching is rooted in the transformative power of understanding and reshaping your own inner narrative. I have a foundation in psychology and specialise training in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) and I am a student of Internal Family Systems Therapy

I provide a compassionate, supportive space where clients can explore and reframe their thoughts and relationships. My methods are tailored to empower predominantly female clients seeking self-discovery and personal growth. Through a blend of insightful guidance and actionable strategies, I can help you navigate your emotional terrain, fostering a balanced mindset and cultivating meaningful, enriching relationships.

My Aim

My Three-Step Process to Personal Transformation

1. Awareness of Self: This first phase is akin to studying the map and understanding the terrain before embarking on a hike. Together, we explore the various “parts” of yourself, identifying areas that require attention and understanding. This journey into self-awareness lays the foundation for profound personal insights

2. Acceptance of Self: Much like a hiker embracing the challenging parts of the trail, this step involves accepting all aspects of yourself. In this crucial phase, we focus on accepting these diverse “parts” of yourself. Through compassionate coaching, you’ll learn to embrace all aspects of your being, fostering self-love and reducing internal conflict.

3. Inner Freedom: Having traversed the path and reached the summit, you can now enjoy the panoramic views and freedom that come with self-discovery. By fully understanding and accepting each part of your “Self,” we pave the way to inner freedom. This final step empowers you to live authentically and joyously, unburdened by past limitations and open to new possibilities.

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What Is Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)

I incorporate Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) as a cornerstone of my transformative approach to personal growth and healing. NLP is a powerful tool that helps reprogram your mind to overcome mental barriers and embrace positive change, allowing you to achieve your fullest potential.

NLP focuses on the connection between neurological processes, language, and behavioural patterns learned through experience. By understanding and changing these patterns, NLP enables you to alter your thoughts and behaviors to create a more fulfilling life. It’s about transforming your inner dialogue and reshaping your mindset to foster resilience, happiness, and success.

In our sessions, I will utilise various NLP techniques, such as modeling, anchoring, and reframing, to help you understand and transform your mental and emotional landscape. These methods are designed to help you break negative patterns, improve your communication skills, and build stronger, healthier relationships.

By understanding and altering your internal dialogue, NLP enables you to overcome mental barriers and embrace positive change.

The Benefits of NLP

NLP offers numerous benefits that can significantly improve your personal and professional life, including:

Improved Communication: Enhancing your ability to understand and connect with others effectively.
Emotional Resilience: Building the capacity to manage and recover from emotional challenges.
Breaking Negative Patterns: Identifying and transforming limiting beliefs and behaviours that hold you back.

What Is Internal Family Systems (IFS)

As well as NLP I also plan to incorporate Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a cornerstone of my coaching approach to help you with your personal growth and healing. IFS is a powerful tool that helps you understand and harmonise the various parts of your personality.

IFS focuses on the concept that our mind is made up of multiple sub-personalities or “parts,” each with its own perspective and qualities. By identifying and working with these parts, IFS enables you to foster self-compassion, heal from past traumas, and create a more balanced and fulfilling life. It’s about integrating these parts into a harmonious whole, reshaping your inner world to promote resilience, happiness, and success.

In our sessions, I will utilise various IFS techniques, such as identifying protector parts, working with exiles, and nurturing the Self, to help you understand and transform your mental and emotional landscape. These methods are designed to help you heal internal conflicts, improve your self-awareness, and build stronger, healthier relationships.

By understanding and integrating your internal parts, IFS enables you to overcome mental barriers and embrace positive change.

The Benefits of Internal Family Systems (IFS)

IFS offers numerous benefits that can significantly improve your personal and professional life, including:

Improved Self-Compassion: Enhancing your ability to understand and accept yourself fully.
Emotional Resilience: Building the capacity to manage and recover from emotional challenges by healing internal wounds.
Harmony and Balance: Identifying and harmonizing conflicting parts to create a more balanced and peaceful inner world.

The Synergy of NLP and IFS

Complementary Strengths:

When used together, NLP and IFS offer a comprehensive approach to transformation, akin to the ancient Japanese art of Kintsugi, where broken ceramics are repaired with precious golden lacquer, embracing imperfections and enhancing their beauty.

NLP provides practical techniques to reshape negative thought patterns and behaviors, while IFS offers deep, therapeutic insights into the underlying causes, allowing you to integrate and heal the different “parts” within yourself.

Unique Benefits of Combining NLP and IFS:

When used together, NLP and IFS offer a comprehensive approach to transformation. NLP provides practical techniques to quickly alter negative thought patterns and behaviours, while IFS offers deep, therapeutic insights into the underlying causes of these patterns. This combination allows for both immediate relief and long-term healing. By integrating these approaches, you can achieve:

embracing imperfections with tanya jayne relationship and mindset coach

Enhanced Self-Awareness: Gain insights into your internal parts and how they influence your thoughts and behaviours.

Deeper Healing: Address the root causes of emotional pain and trauma, leading to lasting change.

Improved Relationships: Develop healthier communication patterns and resolve internal conflicts that impact your interactions with others.

Holistic Growth: Foster both cognitive and emotional growth, achieving a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Like the golden veins of Kintsugi, the integration of NLP and IFS celebrates your imperfections as sources of strength, guiding you towards a life of radiant wholeness and inner peace.

A Personalised Approach

Tailored Sessions:

I believe that each client is unique and deserves a personalised approach. By blending NLP and IFS techniques, I tailor each session to meet your specific needs and goals. During our initial consultation, we’ll explore your current challenges and desired outcomes, allowing me to design a customised plan that incorporates the best of both methodologies.

Assessment: We begin by identifying the core issues and patterns that you would like addressing. This may involve mapping out your internal parts (IFS) and identifying negative thought patterns (NLP).
Technique Integration: Depending on your needs, I might use NLP techniques such as reframing to alter limiting beliefs, alongside IFS methods to nurture and integrate your internal parts.
Ongoing Support: Each session builds on the previous one, ensuring continuous progress. I provide tools and exercises to practice between sessions, fostering long-term change and growth.